Hi guys:
     I'm suffering from post animation depression. I've spent the last 2 1/2 years on the Ari 3 video and it's complete except for voice work,
however I fear I may never be able to release it.
     Sadly my female lead, Shygirl (Helen Stevenson), was diagnosed with Cancer a few months back and, like the trooper she was, still wanted to reprise
her role. She had been through all the treatments and told me none of them had been effective. 
     We worked pretty closely on all of the Ari vids and we were very good friends. She lived in Scotland and I live in the United States so we
conversed through e-mail. We, of course, continued trading e-mails back and forth and, for a bit, she was strong enough to give it a go. However,
before we could get started, she told me she had contracted an infection in her chest and would have to wait until she recovered from it. She never answered any
of the e-mails I sent after that. I had no other way to get information on her condition and, after a while, I began to fear the worst had happened.
I loved her so much. I continued to send e-mails but no reply was forth coming. Losing a friend I'd known and worked with for over a decade threw
me into a serious artistic depression and I have not recovered from it yet.
     Despite all the work I've put in, I've seemed to have lost the fire to finish the project. Shy was my coordinator for all of the excellent
voice actors I've had in my productions so I'm back at ground zero. I'm not sure if I can motivate myself to replace all the talented artists
she introduced me too. I'm kind of hoping for a miracle to get me over the hump and I know God will provide at some point. My fear is that I won't,
by that time, have the will to finish without her.
     Sorry for the bummer, but I had to get it off my chest and I know of nowhere else where the people I talk to would even understand.
My family have no concept of the work her and I did nor how much our friendship meant to me. (Although my wife did wonder why I was
crying after my last e-mail failed to get a response. She, of course understood but didn't fully understand the depth of my sadness.
I've kept it in my heart along with her memory but it has been very difficult to even view the video.
    Anyway thanks for listening, I know you will all understand what I'm talking about.
Peace to you Shy, I know that God will appreciate you and your talent and will keep you safe. I pray for you still, every night.

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Not so :cool: right now
pete  

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Hello pete
I can understand your grief for a very good friend.
I have always appreciated Shygirl's work and also got a lot of suggestions.
I know about your close cooperation with Shygirl and I also have an idea that you cannot and will not succeed in working on your project at the moment.
Perhaps you can deal with it again at some point, even if you are having a hard time at the moment.
Greetings from your old friend from Germany
Werner (Postfrosch)


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So, so sorry for you, Peter.

The only thing I would recommend, and I hope you take this the right way, is that you keep pursuing efforts to find out what has actually happened.  Yes, it's likely she is no longer with us and while that is something we all eventually have to face it's important to have closure.  I had a close friend who, after I moved a few thousand miles away, only communicated with via phone.  One day he didn't answer and because he was without family (or at least none I knew of) I had no way of knowing what the situation was, although I also knew he was a very unhealthy individual.  Like you, I was fairly sure he has passed, but I continued my efforts to find out and while it did take a year I was eventually able to speak to his former landlord (who had since moved on both in location and job) and confirm my friend's death.

It made a difference.  I knew now for a fact what had happened and it no longer nagged at me.  Plus, having spoken to someone who knew more details (not many, but a few) it gave me such a better picture I could finally rest.  And it DID lift my depression (even though we weren't "work buddies" as you were we did talk continually each week throughout the football season and until I knew what happened to him I couldn't watch a game without feeling sad).  I suspect the same might be true of you and, if so, you owe it to yourself to get that ending.

Overseas is difficult but not impossible, and there are certainly places of record you could contact to give you more info (even her email addy would reveal some information, as you could trace it back and see some things from it.  Plus, you know her full name and that's VERY helpful even in an international search).  Anyway, just a thought and if it's not something you feel up to right now you may come back to it later.

But she looks like an Angel, and if she is in Heaven I'm sure the other Angels are happy to have her.

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her suffering is over and you are richer for having known her
when you can finish your animation, it will honour her memory

Sorry to hear about this difficult situation Peter.  

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Oh this is so very sad to hear. Shy was a big contributor to the forum a marvelous talent and a wonderful person, this is just heartbreaking. She was a very generous person and helped me so many times.
I completely understand you feeling Pete. Please keep us informed if you learn more and will certainly be praying for that dear gal.
God Bless



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@Peter - So sorry to hear the sad news.  I thought Mike and Wendy both had phenomenal comments.  I hope it's not too long before you regain your peace, but be patient with yourself during this difficult time.

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Peter, so sorry to hear what is happening. We can only hope and Pray for you and Shy. Understanding the closeness that you shared with her...it makes it tough. Plus the not knowing makes it worse.
Hope that soon you can find your passion again for your Project and somehow...finish in HER HONOR!  Yes, It won't be the same, but no matter what, she will always be there with you. You will forever hear her voice...as you create...she is there.
Sincerely, 
Nancy

Most distressing news Pete.

I've "known" Shygirl from the Cool Creators Forum since I starting using iClone with version 2. I'm really lost for words on this, and I can feel your pain. She helped me out on several occasions and always seemed to have time and energy for those needing them. 

Gerry

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Very sorry to hear about Shygirl.

I liked her work as a designer and have several of her outfits. I didn't know her personally other than through the forum and it was a loss when she no longer participated.

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