So live link keeps sending one character instead of the 2 I have in the scene, it sends lights cameras, but the same one character over and over, not the second, it worked once, I had to reupdate the one it isn't sending, now it doesn't send it, can't exactly see what I'm doing wrong. have sent them separate one works the other doesn't. What the heck?

Seems like your iclone ue4 livelink is corrupted. This happen when you try to send data over and over again. Try deleting the iclone origin/ starting a new project in iclone/start a fresh project  in ue4/ manually exporting the character as fbx { i know it is kinda hassle but cc setup is amazing)

In my case, starting a fresh project in ue4 generally solves all the problem.